How does one manifest a husband you might ask? Well, I manifested mine and it’s a fun story to share. Some meet their significant other through a blind date, others through work and yet others out doing social events but after years of being wishy-washy, I manifested by man. Yes. Yes. I did.
I’d dated on and off for 20 years after my first marriage ended. Most of the men I’d met were through online dating sites. Boy howdy. Those are stories to tell and they deserve wine and popcorn but right now that’s not what we are talking about.
Manifesting dates wasn’t unfamiliar to me. At one time in my life, I manifested being a dating magnet and had 6 dates in one month. As someone who might have dated once every 6 months, that was a biggie. At the time I wasn’t really serious about finding someone. It wasn’t the time for that.
Operation Manifest commences.
One morning I woke up to my radio alarm and heard an advertisement for a local bar that had line dancing. I thought to myself, “Maybe that’s what I need to do; go line dancing to meet a guy.” That’s when I heard a message that I needed to put an ad on a particular website. It wasn’t a website that was known for dating, but it was known for personal ads of a more salacious nature. I said “Are you serious? Really?” I was told, “Yes.”.
At that time in my life, I was meeting, by phone, 5 days a week with a mastermind group. Our purpose was to support each other on whatever journey we were taking. I shared the message I had received from my guides, and they said the same thing “Are you sure?”
My intention, by the way, was not to manifest a husband but a committed relationship. I’d been married and I didn’t really care if I got married again.
Once we completed our mastermind call, I wrote up my ad and posted it. I knew what I was looking for and I was specific. Two things that made this ad different from past personal ads wer that I didn’t post a picture and I was REALLY clear about what I wanted.
One thing I mentioned was I wanted someone who understood energy work. I was a Reiki Master by this time, and I wanted someone who would embrace this lifestyle. You might be wondering about the picture. As a person of size, I’d regularly been turned down by men or asked about the size of my boobs. Yeah. I know. Anyway, I digress.
Imagine my surprise when I had well over 25 responses by the next day. Many of them were not a fit. It was a site that was known for hookups so even though I’d been clear, some didn’t pay attention to my parameters. I believe they could read; they just chose to ignore what I’d said. One response in particular caught my eye and fit what I’d requested. We wrote back and forth several times and wound up having our first date two nights later. On that date he told me he didn’t want someone else to “get me.”
That relationship was only a few months but I had some neat experiences. He was a shapeshifter so I learned about that- again, another story for another day. He was also the alpha in a pack of wolves, so I got to experience sharing him in that way. Again, another story another day. It is fascinating though, right? He also had lots of unhealed wounds. I realized I needed to be clearer in my “ask” and I wanted someone who had done his own personal growth.
We’d broken up right before we were supposed to go away for my March birthday weekend, so I went alone and brought a bag of vision board materials.
Part two of my manifesting began that weekend. I walked the beach, sat in front of the fireplace, utilized the jetted tub, journaled and thought about what I really wanted. Then I created a vision board being explicit about the qualities I wanted in my partner. I left that weekend rejuvenated, relaxed and ready to place my ad again.
The second ad was clearer. I had just as many responses and said no to most. One stood out. We began writing emails. We connected through words first and then by phone. He asked me out on a dinner date and on April 19, 2015, I went on my last first date. On that date he told me two things I remember vividly. He wasn’t getting married again and he wouldn’t be staying in the area. I was ok with the first and didn’t think much of the second.
On our 2nd date I said, “My soul feels safe with you.” It did and it still does. We have created a safe place for each other to continue to grow.
A few months after we met, Walter said to me “Do you know what manifesting is?”
I said yes.
“I manifested you,” he said.
“Funny, I manifested you too”, I replied.
Over time I became aware of the fact that there was a bigger picture here. Although we manifested each other, our ancestors were in collusion to bring us together. Many things needed to happen for us to meet. Moves, divorces, personal work etc. By the time I placed my ad, we were both ready.
When we married, we put up an ancestral alter to honor all who had come before us. A month later, I had two mediums come to the house to do a group reading for my family and friends.
As my group of friends sat there and the mediums gave messages, this one came through. “The ancestors were very happy to come together and celebrate with someone in this room. Does that mean anything to anyone?” I looked around at all my friends, wondering who that message was for.
I saw all these eyes looking back at me and my sister said. “Um. You got married in this room a month ago.” Sometimes you need to be hit over the head with a message. I loved that confirmation. I knew they were with us but to have them communicate through another source was wonderful.
On December 29th, 2018 we got married. And, yes, I still have that vision board tucked away in my box of keepsakes.
